[UberWoman11]

This is my first post, but I've been driving with Uber since February. Recently, while driving Friday night, I took a fare to downtown, to a comedy club. The whole way there, he kept trying to get me to stop driving for the night, and go to the show with him like on a date. I figured he was just joking around so I joked back, and said Thanks, but No, and That I was already taken. But that didn't stop him!! I even said I hope you meet someone nice there. . But it so happened that I ended up driving him home from The Comedy Club as well. And during the entire trip he kept trying to get me to touch him in some way, or kiss him in some way. Yes I have been flirted with, but I don't take it seriously, and mostly Joking around or complimentary, not rude or violent. Or just goofing, and having a good time. I've never been assaulted, or made uncomfortable with any of these gestures, until this one. He refused to exit my car if I didn't give him a kiss. What is a good way to deal with this type of issue? Do I need to call the cops? Or how do I Defuse The Situation? Without being rude, when I've already shut him down every other time and turned serious about it, once I started feeling uncomfortable, and he just wouldn't stop, even after I said I was in love and not interested. But flattered. I didn't know what to say to the comment "we have chemistry, leave him" I said no, but he kept trying!!!

 

[UberMensch2015]

Get a dash cam asap

 

[tradedate]

Be firm and direct. Once it goes past a certain point of light hearted flirting, tell him he's making you feel uncomfortable and that it needs to stop.

You're trying to be courteous, polite, and spare the guy's feelings out of respect. But he clearly wasn't treating you with that same respect. You make yourself more of a potential victim when you're still being nice after the rider is becoming borderline predatory.

And either get a dedicated dash cam as UberMensch2015 suggested, or use a cam app on your phone. There's one called AutoBoy BlackBox that works great.

 

[tohunt4me]

This is my first post, but I've been driving with Uber since February. Recently, while driving Friday night, I took a fare to downtown, to a comedy club. The whole way there, he kept trying to get me to stop driving for the night, and go to the show with him like on a date. I figured he was just joking around so I joked back, and said Thanks, but No, and That I was already taken. But that didn't stop him!! I even said I hope you meet someone nice there. . But it so happened that I ended up driving him home from The Comedy Club as well. And during the entire trip he kept trying to get me to touch him in some way, or kiss him in some way. Yes I have been flirted with, but I don't take it seriously, and mostly Joking around or complimentary, not rude or violent. Or just goofing, and having a good time. I've never been assaulted, or made uncomfortable with any of these gestures, until this one. He refused to exit my car if I didn't give him a kiss. What is a good way to deal with this type of issue? Do I need to call the cops? Or how do I Defuse The Situation? Without being rude, when I've already shut him down every other time and turned serious about it, once I started feeling uncomfortable, and he just wouldn't stop, even after I said I was in love and not interested. But flattered. I didn't know what to say to the comment "we have chemistry, leave him" I said no, but he kept trying!!!

A comedy club joker boy who plays games like that with you ?

Tell him you are a Dominatrix of the most Severe Disciplines.
Tell him he would have to undergo many extreme tests ,before you would ever consider branding him.

Ask if he enjoys whips and razor blades .

( scare the hell out of him)

 

[Flarpy]

Goggles and pepper spray work wonders. I always drive with goggles on and when people ask, "What's with the goggles" I pepper spray the entire car.

 

[tohunt4me]

Goggles and pepper spray work wonders. I always drive with goggles on and when people ask, "What's with the goggles" I pepper spray the entire car.

Then charge them for cleanup ?

 

[Reversoul]

This is my first post, but I've been driving with Uber since February. Recently, while driving Friday night, I took a fare to downtown, to a comedy club. The whole way there, he kept trying to get me to stop driving for the night, and go to the show with him like on a date. I figured he was just joking around so I joked back, and said Thanks, but No, and That I was already taken. But that didn't stop him!! I even said I hope you meet someone nice there. . But it so happened that I ended up driving him home from The Comedy Club as well. And during the entire trip he kept trying to get me to touch him in some way, or kiss him in some way. Yes I have been flirted with, but I don't take it seriously, and mostly Joking around or complimentary, not rude or violent. Or just goofing, and having a good time. I've never been assaulted, or made uncomfortable with any of these gestures, until this one. He refused to exit my car if I didn't give him a kiss. What is a good way to deal with this type of issue? Do I need to call the cops? Or how do I Defuse The Situation? Without being rude, when I've already shut him down every other time and turned serious about it, once I started feeling uncomfortable, and he just wouldn't stop, even after I said I was in love and not interested. But flattered. I didn't know what to say to the comment "we have chemistry, leave him" I said no, but he kept trying!!!

Find a job that doesn't involve being in close proximity of intoxicated and desperate men.

It comes with the territory. Female bartenders deal with it too.

 

[wk1102]

If this is your first really uncomfortable moment you are doing great, just keep doing what you're doing. Unfortunately, you are going to run into some guys like this that do not take the subtle hint and you have to get more and more direct.

When the polite no doesn't work, tell him you are making me uncomfortable stop. The next step is telling him you are going to call the police, and be ready to do so.

I know you don't want to tank your rating but your safety needs to come first. There comes a time where you need to stop being g polite, don't be afraid to step it up.

 

[GILD]

rule one, dont pick up the same tool twice if he bothered you. cancel second trip and log off for 5 min. be safe.

 

[renbutler]

Tell him that every word is being streamed through the app to monitors at the Uber headquarters.

Then drive to a busy, well-lit store (or other very public place) and ask him to leave the vehicle. If he doesn't leave, turn off the vehicle, take your keys, and go inside while he makes other arrangements. Keep an eye on your vehicle from a distance, along with an employee or other trustworthy witness.

Don't end the trip until he's done and gone (at least get paid for your time), and send a detailed report to Uber.

 

[UberUber81]

Politely decline like you did. If the individual pursues you again, say "oh that reminds me", and call your boyfriend and talk to him on speaker phone.
say like "this nice guy just hit on me and it reminded me of when we met, I love you so much baby" etc etc. Just carry on a conversation with your boyfriend until the ride ends. OR you can just take over the conversation and talk about your boyfriend and how much you adore each other, and all the goofy things he does, and how nice he treats you, favorite colors, favorite moments, etc etc etc.

 

[SomeDrivingGuy]

Mention a STD? Most times I play dumb and pretend to have a gf, depending.

 

[UberWoman11]

Mention a STD? Most times I play dumb and pretend to have a gf, depending.

LOL. That's great! Thanks!

 

[UberWoman11]

Politely decline like you did. If the individual pursues you again, say "oh that reminds me", and call your boyfriend and talk to him on speaker phone.
say like "this nice guy just hit on me and it reminded me of when we met, I love you so much baby" etc etc. Just carry on a conversation with your boyfriend until the ride ends. OR you can just take over the conversation and talk about your boyfriend and how much you adore each other, and all the goofy things he does, and how nice he treats you, favorite colors, favorite moments, etc etc etc.

Great idea!! I will have to remember that I can carry on a fake conversation, cause he's usually asleep. But that would work too!!

 

[UberWoman11]

Tell him that every word is being streamed through the app to monitors at the Uber headquarters.

Then drive to a busy, well-lit store (or other very public place) and ask him to leave the vehicle. If he doesn't leave, turn off the vehicle, take your keys, and go inside while he makes other arrangements. Keep an eye on your vehicle from a distance, along with an employee or other trustworthy witness.

Don't end the trip until he's done and gone (at least get paid for your time), and send a detailed report to Uber.

Thank you!! I never thought of that! I have a dash cam for this reason, and most the time it deters anyone from going too far. But how do I more than that it's not just being stored on the SD card? Id like to make sure I'm safe, especially if someone starts something Is that possible? That it would be streamed to someone or to a cloud?
I read that some carry a stungum/taser? Instead of pepperspray, because pepperspray doesn't do well if they get too close, it will affect you as well.

 

[UberWoman11]

rule one, dont pick up the same tool twice if he bothered you. cancel second trip and log off for 5 min. be safe.

Yes, you are right. Learning experience I assume. I've gotta check username more clearly. Thanks!!

 

[UberWoman11]

Get a dash cam asap

I just posted about this one. I have a dash cam, but it only saves to SD card. Is that enough do you think? Just make sure I have a large enough storage size?

 

[ChortlingCrison]

This is my first post, but I've been driving with Uber since February. Recently, while driving Friday night, I took a fare to downtown, to a comedy club. The whole way there, he kept trying to get me to stop driving for the night, and go to the show with him like on a date. I figured he was just joking around so I joked back, and said Thanks, but No, and That I was already taken. But that didn't stop him!! I even said I hope you meet someone nice there. . But it so happened that I ended up driving him home from The Comedy Club as well. And during the entire trip he kept trying to get me to touch him in some way, or kiss him in some way. Yes I have been flirted with, but I don't take it seriously, and mostly Joking around or complimentary, not rude or violent. Or just goofing, and having a good time. I've never been assaulted, or made uncomfortable with any of these gestures, until this one. He refused to exit my car if I didn't give him a kiss. What is a good way to deal with this type of issue? Do I need to call the cops? Or how do I Defuse The Situation? Without being rude, when I've already shut him down every other time and turned serious about it, once I started feeling uncomfortable, and he just wouldn't stop, even after I said I was in love and not interested. But flattered. I didn't know what to say to the comment "we have chemistry, leave him" I said no, but he kept trying!!!

Hmmm, you could say I'm not that kind of girl....

 

[uberdriverfornow]

You can always tell Uber what he did and request that you not be paired with him again.

 

[itsablackmarket]

This is my first post, but I've been driving with Uber since February. Recently, while driving Friday night, I took a fare to downtown, to a comedy club. The whole way there, he kept trying to get me to stop driving for the night, and go to the show with him like on a date. I figured he was just joking around so I joked back, and said Thanks, but No, and That I was already taken. But that didn't stop him!! I even said I hope you meet someone nice there. . But it so happened that I ended up driving him home from The Comedy Club as well. And during the entire trip he kept trying to get me to touch him in some way, or kiss him in some way. Yes I have been flirted with, but I don't take it seriously, and mostly Joking around or complimentary, not rude or violent. Or just goofing, and having a good time. I've never been assaulted, or made uncomfortable with any of these gestures, until this one. He refused to exit my car if I didn't give him a kiss. What is a good way to deal with this type of issue? Do I need to call the cops? Or how do I Defuse The Situation? Without being rude, when I've already shut him down every other time and turned serious about it, once I started feeling uncomfortable, and he just wouldn't stop, even after I said I was in love and not interested. But flattered. I didn't know what to say to the comment "we have chemistry, leave him" I said no, but he kept trying!!!

unfortunately the Uber platform doesn't allow that "luxury" of having control of yourself. Uber owns you when you drive for them, and when you drive for them, you do EVERYTHING to please the customers.